what is love..

love.. this is something which science cannot explain... what is it like to experience love? people are getting attached and breaking up more often nowadays compare to the past... why is that so? someone once told me that sometimes.. it's not that we really love the person.. it's just that we like having someone who cares about us and having someone to care for.. that might explain why some relationships don't work for some... perhaps next time.. we should ask ourselves whether is that really love that we are feeling before going into relationships... what is love? perhaps the simplest meaning for it would be, "a feeling which we can never put into words"...

chaos...

our world seems to be getting more and more chaotic day by day.... we have internal conflicts going on within countries.. natural disasters occurring more often... the worsening of the global warming.. causing the ice cap to melt at a faster rate... why do we humans have to go against one another? it seems we are the most selfish species of all... we are constantly competing with others.. only caring about what we want... it's sad but true... perhaps that's the reason why mother nature is creating more and more disasters.. to teach us a lesson.. it was said that world war three might happen.. perhaps world war three is coming soon.. but it's not war between countries but rather war against mother nature...

analogies...

When you like someone who has no feelings for you or worse..is already attached... the situation is somewhat like what the comic hero, Ironman faced. It's something like a piece of shrapnel which is lodged deeply in your heart... it can't be removed... and the more you touch it..the deeper it goes into your heart... you can only choose to ignore it... find some way to numb yourself from the pain... but somehow... you'll always notice it's presence... this is what people will experience when such stuff happens.. no matter how much they try not to think about it... that piece of shrapnel will always be there...

Everyone of us is born with a timebomb within themselves... Each person carries a different type of bomb with different lengths of fuse attached... the most explosive kind usually lies not in the hot tempered people..but in the quiet ones... these people usually have a huge bomb with a long fuse attached... they do not explode that easily..but when they do...the result can be devastating.. even fatal at times... the hot tempered kind usually have shorter fuses attached to a weaker but nevertheless powerful bomb... in our stressful lives nowadays... our fuses tend to light up more easily..causing the length to shorten at a great rate... if we do not keep ourselves in check and put out the light fuse regularly.. sooner or later we'll explode... and when we do.. not only do we hurt ourselves.. but others around us as well... recently, I have seen quite a number of cases of people having their timebombs going off..causing great grief to themselves and others... therefore.. we should take time each day.. to cool ourselves down.. put out the light fuse if any... try our very best not to let that bomb inside us explode...do it not just for yourself but for others too...

Happiness n sadness...

i find that sometimes.. in our lives... the happiness that we get is built upon the sadness of others.. how so? well..let's take a look at our modern society... almost everything we do is competitive in one way or another... we always want to get the best in life and will do whatever it takes to achieve it...we might not know it.. but such stuff has been going on since young... take exams for example.. you are happy when you get the 1st position in class.. but this is so because there is someone in the class who got the last position.. you are happy when u get the gold medal in a race but that's so because someone else finished last..in working perspective.. you feel happy when you are promoted but there's a chance that you got that post because the previous person was sacked... in love perspective.. you are happy that you got the girl/guy of your dreams..but someone else out there lost that dream person to you...

Therefore... isn't it right to say that one's happiness is built upon other's sadness? perhaps that's the way life works for us... whenever there is something gained.. something has to be lost... to maintain a balance... some yin yang theory.. bah ...this is life for you...

All's fair in love... determination

I was watching this drama last night... one of the characters told another that all's fair in love and that one should go for what one wants...
sure.. you should compete with others for the one that you like... however, fairness aside... if the one that you like is already attached... would you still go on competing? Is that morally right? If the one you like is forced to be with someone else or is unhappy with the other then by all means, go fight for the one... however, if the person chose to be with the other, then obviously there's a liking for that other and vice versa.. so wouldn't it be selfish to go attempt to break the couple up? I'm sure if you are attached, you won't want anyone else trying to get your partner away from you right?
That's why "all's fair in love" is not exactly true... unless you are cold hearted, i'm sure no matter how painful it is to see the one that you like with another, you won't want to go fight for her... this might sound cliche, but as long as the person is happy, you will be "happy"... "happy" not for yourself.. but for that person... and you will choose to spend the rest of your life standing in the corner watching out for that person...
Another thing about this determination part.. it is said that if you are determined.. you will get whatever you aim for... obviously this is not true when it comes to stuff like the above case.. or lets say you are determined to stay healthy for life... sure.. you may be very determined.. but then our dear friend up there decides to give you some wonderful present... like say cancer.. you'll still end up terribly ill... so this determination thing does not cover everything.. it all depends on whether you are meant to have it or not... if you and that person are meant to be together.. you'll be together.. if you are not.. then no matter how determined you are.. you will never have that person.. sometimes in life... that's why sometimes...instead of telling yourself that you will achieve something no matter what... why not turn the other cheek and let go... it's hard and painful to do so.. but like i said.. whatever is meant to be.. will be...

Fresh start..

I have finally cleared all my previous posts at last... have been wanting to do so for a long time but was just too lazy to do so... I did this because i wanted to start everything afresh... wat happened in the past is history... focus on the present and decide on the future.. that's most important... learn from the past but do not cling on to it... if you let the past weigh u down.. there's no way u can move forward.... the above is just a thought.. not directed to anyone in particular...